Are you familiar with a little place called "Victim-hood"? It seems like an attractive place to live, at first glance. No one blames you for anything when you live in Victim-hood, and there are plenty of nice people to express sympathy for your
troubles. They don't expect you to do much for yourself because after all, life is really hard! (They should know; they live there too.) Instead, you can snuggle down for a nice long stay and let the brave face the challenges that you don't want to face.
The problem is that once you move into Victim-hood, it's difficult to get out. Excuses grow as large as trees and block your path, and fear lurks ominously beyond the 'hood limits. Out there somewhere is a scary thing called Responsibility, and you know you'll need to shoulder some if you want to move out of the 'hood. But in order to get it, you need to build up your courage and travel away from the comfort and security of the familiar.
Does the above description sound a little sarcastic to you? Does it sound like I'm picking on victims? Don't be offended because I've spent my fair share of time in Victim-hood too. (Sometimes I still take a day trip there to visit with old friends.) I think most people have at least a mild familiarity with the place.
It's really easy to feel that the universe is picking on us sometimes. We see other people that seem to have it so easy. They're driving around in fancy cars, making tons of money, living the high life, while we struggle to make even the slightest progress. Our challenges always seem to be so much bigger than everyone else's don't they?
That's the problem: our PERCEPTION of our challenges. We feel diminished or defeated before we even get started.
Bringing out your personal excellence is dependent upon letting go of your victim mind-set. Rather than trying to wish away your challenges and obstacles, EXCEL IN SPITE OF THEM. Change your perception from, "Why is this happening to me?" to "How can I get through this most effectively?"
Just that ONE change can make such a dramatic difference in your attitude. You will naturally tap into an inner power that can propel you through ANY obstacle or challenge without a single stumble or fall.
If you need some support to make the shift from Victimhood to Excellence give us a call NOW on 01752 664429 or grace@cspcoaching.com.
Grace Chatting is a writer, psychotherapist and coach. She is co-founder of the transformational coaching centre Anam Cara, set in the beautiful mountains of Andalusia (www.anamcaracentre.com ). If you want to deal with difficulties in a constructive way and move on in your life, career and relationships, contact her at www.cspcoaching.com or www.plymouth-counselling.co.uk. You may reproduce this article in full provided this resource box is included with it.
